Divorce can be an extremely difficult life event, but we believe there’s a better way to navigate through it.
Informed by lived experience, The Pattern Project was founded to help people through one of the most complex financial, mental, physical, and legal health events in life.
Success for our clients means greater clarity, preparedness, confidence in decision-making, and ability to navigate the divorce process with more agency. The goal is to return control to the individual.
What makes The Pattern Project different?
Clinical training, healthcare systems thinking, and lived experience.
The Pattern Project offers leading edge concepts, coaching, and tools built around its philosophy for navigating divorce with greater clarity, preparedness and confidence.
See what’s coming
The Pattern Assessment™ helps you understand where you are in your divorce journey, what capacities you have available, and what risks you might encounter. It will give you context for what you might face going forward, actions you may need to consider, or perspectives you may want to seek.
Know what matters
The divorce process is different for every individual, as is what matters most. Whether that’s financial stability, custody of children, timelines, or emotional wellbeing, we’ll help you identify the most important factors for you so that when you’re making decisions, you’re making them with your prioritized goals in mind.
Own what comes next
Through stronger wellbeing and decision support, the perspective gained via The Pattern Assessment™, and clarity around every important decision, you own every next step with confidence.
Work with us to see what’s coming, know what matters, and own what’s next.
Meriel Sanchez-Cordero
Founder, International Certified Divorce Coach
“This practice is informed by my professional background in critical care nursing, healthcare and medical technology, divorce coaching, and my lived experience of navigating a prolonged high-conflict divorce.”
Denise Gershbein
Founding Partner, Strategy and Navigation
“My work in systems design and decision support has always been about helping people see a complicated situation clearly enough to know what to do next. My own divorce showed me how hard that can be when you’re inside it.”
Who’s behind The Pattern Project?
The Pattern Project was founded by Meriel Sanchez-Cordero and Denise Gershbein.
Meriel Sanchez-Cordero
Founder, International Certified Divorce Coach
“This practice is informed by my professional background in critical care nursing, healthcare and medical technology, divorce coaching, and my lived experience of navigating a prolonged high-conflict divorce.”
Meriel used an extensive career in healthcare across both high-acuity clinical care and commercial roles in the medical device world to develop The Pattern Project’s overarching philosophy and assessment tools. Meriel credits her prior experience in teaching her a simple, but important lesson she has carried forward to The Pattern Project: the presenting problem is rarely the real one, and you have to dig to find the root cause. High-conflict divorce isn’t really about the divorce. It’s about high-conflict personalities, including manipulation and coercive control, and the lasting impact of sustained trauma. Her own experience of that journey showed her how much more is involved than a legal event, with many stakeholders and unforeseen factors, much like a complex clinical case.
Expertise:
20+ years in global healthcare
12 years as a critical care nurse
Harvard Medical School Executive Education, Global Health Care Leaders Program
International Certified Divorce Coach, CDC
Denise Gershbein
Founding Partner, Strategy and Navigation
“My work in systems design and decision support has always been about helping people see a complicated situation clearly enough to know what to do next. My own divorce showed me how hard that can be when you’re inside it.”
Denise brings a career spanning experience design, systems thinking, and decision strategy to The Pattern Project. Much of her work has been in healthcare, designing care pathways for people making consequential decisions in complex, unfamiliar systems. She brings that same thinking to divorce: understanding the whole journey, anticipating needs, and connecting expertise that too often sits in silos. Her personal experience deepened her understanding of how difficult it can be to hold the longer view when immediate problems demand attention. At The Pattern Project, Denise helps people understand the system they’re in, recognize what matters, and make decisions their future selves and their future families can live with.
Expertise:
20+ years as global innovation consultant
Specialization in experience strategy, resource management and prioritization, and decision support in the corporate, civil society, and non-profit sectors
10+ years in healthcare design and patient journey management
Master’s degree in Product Design, Stanford University, with a focus on human-centered design
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